we had our final homestudy meeting over lunch today. it was mostly just chatting about the process of matching a kid/s with a family and what we are looking for in a match and what our social worker will be looking for as far as a match. she asked us, “if i could wave my magic wand and bring you any kid, what would it look like?” and i was like, “ummmmmmmmmm any kid!’ hahahaha. lani and i definitely go back and forth about sex and ages but have found over the last month that we are definitely thinking more in terms of toddler aged children. our social worker is so excited that we are open to a sibling pair and is really leaning toward finding us a little pair of kiddos. we had to talk about whether or not we’d want to hold out for a sibling pair in that age range and i think we came around to the decision that no, we wouldn’t want to hold out for a set. we’d be just as happy with a singleton.
we talked about how friggin long it’s taking to get all the details settled. we are still waiting for our fingerprints to clear at the central office as well as my out of state cor.i check. we knew about these two delays and knew it would be around a week more for those to come in. and then of course there is the last minute OOOOPS! that always happens. our social worker thought our employer references were in. and so did we. alas, they were never sent out and so now we have to wait for those to go out, get filled out and then get back in. annoying.
so, we are still hopeful that all we be in and approved by the end of november but damn! it feels like it’s taking forever!
i think i’m anxious because i feel like there is gonna be this freeze around the holidays where lots of people won’t be working and matching kids is hard during that time. i have NO reason to think we’d have a match before the holidays and never really thought that it was possible – but for some reason i’m just stuck on some weird anxiety around the holidays … like just wishing it was all done. so, i’m working on letting go of that. and the idea that maybe our homestudy would be approved before thanksgiving. totally not in my control. so hard.
we are getting excited about our thanksgiving road trip though! yay dolly.wood! i love me some dolly!
4 Comments
November 12, 2008 at 8:26 pm
Congratulations on the completion of your homestudy! Though there are still a few more hoops to jump through before it’s approved, the bulk of the work is done. Yay to you and Lani!
November 13, 2008 at 4:42 pm
Congratulations on the completion of your homestudy. I hope it is really soon that your family comes to you.
November 14, 2008 at 12:12 am
I am so excited that all of this is getting so close. I just can’t stop thinking about that kid out there– he or she does not know how lucky s/he is yet, but they will know it soon. Just as much as this new person is going to change your life, you are going to vastly change this little person’s life too. Amazing.
November 14, 2008 at 2:42 am
man, well…..today’s post was such a bummer, but this post is very positive! I’m glad that this stuff is going well right now, and that you are inching closer. I hope that your success in this endeavor can make up for the crappy layoff experience. I am so so sorry about that. Truly.